How To Spice Things Up In The Bedroom (After Marriage)



“Having a strong and fulfilling relationship is absolutely possible when both partners are committed to working as a team and creating a supportive, encouraging and accepting environment,” said Lauren Dalton-Stern, LPCC.

It is normal for couples to lose interest in their sex life after marriage especially after having kids or working full time jobs and maybe even after going through a rough patch in life. Some people also get too tired from night time activities or they just simply don’t have the time.  Couples usually tend to become too comfortable with each other, which causes the passion to fade away and the novelty of the marriage to wear off. Unfortunately, this leads some couple to a bitter divorce or some partners resort to infidelity to seek the passion that’s missing in their marriage.Here are some tips that you can try to reignite the spark in your marriage:

Swap Naughty Texts and Photos During the Day

Not only is it a great way to get through the day, but it also sets the mood and your partner looks forward to coming home to you. It’ll also make you feel like a newly-wed couple.


Make a Date with Your Partner



Take a day off work and all your other duties. Ask a family member to babysit your kids for a day. Spend the day at home with your partner, cook a meal together, watch movies and end your date off with sex.


Watch Sexy Movies Together

When you send your kids off for a day or once they are asleep, put on a sexy movie that you can both watch together. This will help with setting the mood and it will end your evening in passion and sex.


Set the Mood



Whatever it is you desire or whatever you feel will get your partner in the mood. You can try a candlelight dinner, throwing rose petals on the bed, playing love songs or a nice long soak in the tub with your partner. For women, wear sexy lingerie. These little things will definitely set the mood right for some sexy time.


Try Having Sex in Different Parts of the House



Are you and your partner finding the bedroom too boring? Try doing it in the lounge, or on your study room desk or in the kitchen. You could even try it in the bathtub or the shower. This will definitely help with spicing up your sex life.


Try a Change of Scenery

If doing it in different parts of the house didn’t quite do it for the two of you; you can always try a different type of scenery. Book a hotel room for the night, take a long drive with each other. Be careful of public spots though!


Compliment Your Partner

Tell them how sexy they are and how they turn you on. Flirt with your partner and a little dirty talk won’t hurt too!


This Tip is for Women

As a woman, you can wear different types of lingerie. So, instead of the usual boring cute bras and thongs; be adventurous. Go shopping for some naughty lingerie such as a naughty school teacher, cop, Princess, French maids, sexy corsets and whatever you think will get your husband in the mood. It’s also a great and sexy idea to get come props to accompany your lingerie such as handcuffs, blindfolds, whips and even some sexy heels. Be spontaneous and playful!


There’s Always Light at the End of the Tunnel

Think of it this way, your kids will grow up, you won’t have to work long hours for the rest of your life and if you save enough money for the future, your life will not be stressful. With this in mind, you and your partner will have more time to spend with each other, having fun and doing whatever it is that your heart desires.

According to Christy Haas, MC, LPC “Throughout a marriage there are so many transitional periods that we tend to let the relationship go on autopilot so we can pay attention to “the important things.”

Take note that it is always important to set boundaries in your relationship. Mara Hirschfeld, LMFT said “Think about what you’ll be sacrificing if you don’t set a specific boundary.”