What To Do When Your Family And Friends Are The Source Of Your Stress



Stress doesn’t always come to us in the form of an outside conflict. Some of our stress can be caused by what happens inside the home or what happens in your relationships with your friends and your family. If you’re dealing with stress because your home life is problematic, you are feeling unappreciated, or simply because you are dealing with dramatic people, utilize the tips below to help you relieve some of these common stressors.

Ron Siegel, PsyD suggests, “Keep breathing, and keep practicing just welcoming and feeling the fear.”

  1. Communicate Your Feelings

Your family and your friends will have no idea that they play a role in how stressed you are unless you communicate with them. Set time out during the week to sit down with them and to tell them how you are feeling. If they are truly friends or family, they will listen to what you have to say and they will make an effort to do less of the things that cause you stress. If they choose to ignore what you have to say, you now know where you stand with these people and you can make more of an effort to keep them out of your life.

  1. Get Rid of Toxic People

People who gossip about you or others, complain about their lives, purposely hurt you, and who are just overall terrible people are definitely not meant to be in your life. They often create stressful situations that contribute more to the problem. If you have toxic people in your life, get rid of them. It doesn’t matter if they are your family or your friend. These people are not worth your time or your energy. You’ll be surprised how much less stress you will feel when they are gone. Helen Godfrey, MA, NCC, BCC, LPC says “Bring yourself upward by finding other upwardly mobile people.”

  1. Use Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques

You aren’t always going to be able to stop a stressful person or situation from happening. Therefore, you are going to need to learn how to ground yourself and how to keep yourself from exploding or breaking down every time you experience something stressful. Take some time out of your day to meditate, do yoga, or engage in another exercise that helps you cultivate relaxation and become relaxed. These will be your go-to weapons when things become too stressful to handle. Jason Linder, MA, LMFT says “By practicing mindfulness, sufferers can shift the pendulum back to their presence in the here-and-now.”

  1. If You Can’t Walk Away From Something, Accept it

If you’re unwilling to walk away from situations or people who create stress in your life, learn to accept them. This doesn’t mean that you should allow someone to verbally abuse you or allow your house to stay uncleaned for the remainder of your life, it just means that you need to allow certain things to happen without triggering a reaction from you. Let the things that don’t matter slip by and only react to things that absolutely require a reaction on your part.

  1. Give Yourself a Break

People can only handle so much of a certain thing until they get tired of it. This includes your friends and family. Take a break when things become too difficult to handle and learn to embrace it rather than feeling guilty. Your friends and family won’t give up on you simply because you needed a break from life. They will still be there when you return and you will be more present to deal with things after you’ve taken some time to yourself for relaxation.

Stress is a natural part of life. You are going to have to deal with it somewhere along your journey but that doesn’t mean that you should have to deal with unnecessary stress created by your friends and your family. Learn when to say no, when to accept things, and when to walk away.