While browsing for gift ideas that my mom can give to her psychologist friend who is turning 40 at the end of the month, I happened to come across this cool saying. It states that “Who can wear a bikini with a sun visor and still look good? Who can afford, and drive, a sports car without portraying a mid-life crisis? And who is old enough to know better, but still young enough to do it anyway? A 40-year-old, of course.”
It just made me smile and feel proud of those women who do not let age stop them from doing the same things that ladies in their 20s and 30s can do. After all, age is nothing but a number. There are many women who no longer think that reaching 40 years old is already the end of their happy days and that they should start doing what senior citizens do so they don’t celebrate it.
Besides, whether there’s a celebration or not, 40-year-old celebrants may still have friends who want to give them presents to make them feel loved and remembered. The only problem is that there are also friends who, like my mom, have a hard time choosing the best gift that they can bring to the party. No one can hate them for thinking that simple bouquet or a scarf or a dress will not be good enough as a birthday gift since this is technically … Read the rest...
When you feel mentally troubled by the excessive amount of stress that you acquire every single day, you may already be giving therapy a thought. For any psychological issue, after all, many people believe that a licensed counselor can help them get peace of mind. Hence, they tend to expect that attending a few sessions with one may resolve the problem.
The thing is, even the reliable therapists out there know that the only person who is most effective at getting you out of your stress-induced misery is yourself. Although they studied psychology or psychiatry for years and gained multiple certifications along the way, they merely have the knowledge to guide you on what to do. It is not their job to solve your issues on your behalf because that will make you dependent on them and prevent you from sorting out your battles on your own.
While you are receiving guidance from a counselor, therefore, it will not hurt to add the seven spiritual laws of prosperity to the things you should remember.
Law Of Vacuum
The vacuum law entails that you can treat your mind like a vacuum machine that can only suck in all the good things in your environment. We are talking about happiness, excitement, success, fulfillment, and so much more, which you might miss when stress reigns in your system.
Law Of Circulation
This law is applicable for the people who love to hoard stuff, … Read the rest...
Being in college is one of the best things in your life, which is why you have to make the best and most out of it. As much as possible, enjoy every single day that you get for this particular moment in your life. Remember that once you graduate from tertiary education level, you will start to take on several responsibilities in your life. When this happens, the expectations of the people around you, especially your family, will increase significantly.
However, college days are not all about fun and excitement. There are days when you may feel lost because of never-ending deadlines from different subjects. It can be challenging to find a balance between managing your academic concerns and spending time with friends or a boyfriend. Sometimes, when all these things clash with each other, it can be a struggle to determine which ones to prioritize. As such, do not be surprised to find out if you encounter stress and anxiety.
As a college student, encountering stress on your day-to-day college life is only normal. Because of this, you have to be smart in looking for strategies on how to minimize or eliminate stress. Below are some of the tips that you have to consider if you want to say goodbye to worry days:
Take It Slow
One of the top reasons why you are feeling stressed out at the moment is because you are probably in a … Read the rest...
“Why are you crying again?” I asked my sister as I walked into her room.
“I’m so stressed out. I think James is fooling around with their new intern. I don’t know what to do!” The smell of her foul breath enveloped my being and instantly made me sick.
“TicTac’s, Lorie!” I said.
“Huh?” She was clueless and didn’t even know what I was talking about.
I’m not cold or insensitive. You can say that I’m tough and stress is just a “game” to be played for me. Meaning – if there are stressful situations in my life, I don’t crumble and cry hopelessly. Instead, I find a way to circumvent my stress and make it into a positive moment. Unfortunately, my sister, Lorie is not like that. She was diagnosed with depression when we were in our teens and she’s been having a hard time with her emotions. Our magic word for it is “stress”. I can never say the D-word in her presence. She won’t be able to take it well.
“Your breath stinks! When was the last time you brushed your teeth? Did you take a bath today?” No, she didn’t take a bath today, or yesterday, or the day before.
“Was that the shirt you wore when I waved at you from the road last Saturday?” I was starting to get angry at her. We live a few … Read the rest...
Women eat stress for breakfast, lunch and dinner. But that’s how women are – they live for stress and life for them must be that way because they are SUPERS. Women stomp on it and cough it out in one blast. Men, on the other hand, are not accustomed to stress which is why an increasing number of them realize they could benefit from psychiatric help. How can they be? It’s always the women who carry the heavy load at home and outside the sanctuary – cook, clean, laundry, kids and work. Men are the breadwinners, yes, but they are not domesticated. And let’s face it, household and family issues are the stressful type of issues in life, do you agree?… Read the rest...
Did you know that you have absolute control over the stressors in your life? Are you aware that there are so many things that you can do to combat stress? When you allow stress to overpower you, there is a high tendency that everything in your life will start to crumble down.
Being stressed can affect your relationships with other people. At the same time, it can also lead to loss of focus making you incompetent in everything you do.… Read the rest...
Being a mother is more than just a label. It is a responsibility and a job in which you are always on duty. You might think that having more kids would mean more of your daily stress, but research disagrees with this notion. In fact, studies show that mothers who have three kids are more stressed than those who only have one or two kids and those with 4 and more. According to this research, the Dugger effect is in place once you reach a certain number of kids and it starts to get easier.
The truth though is that this could be a complete myth!
No number is more or less stressful when it comes to kids.
There is a notion that your level of stress would be dependent on the number of kids you have. Some say that when you reach a certain number, it’ll get easier since you’ll get used to everything. Others believe that the higher the number of kids you have, the more stressful it becomes. The truth is that every kid is different and raising one will always be stressful.
It may be true that your first child will definitely rock your world, especially since that kid would be a life-changer for you. But any kid that follows will be as stressful as the first one, no matter what.
If you find it easier after 4 kids, it… Read the rest...
Life will be boring if you don’t have the opportunity to handle stressful situations. I am not saying that you should be stressed out all the time. What I’m getting at is that you should know your limit and push yourself to overcome a stressful position. Why? This will show how strong you are as a person and how your mind will work to find ways in circumventing a problem even if it poses certain stressful issues.… Read the rest...
There is such a thing as good stress!
“I have finals this weekend, and at the same time, 2 of my old clients are waiting for their gowns to be finished. One of the evening dresses, the “serpentine” one in black needs more Swarovski crystals, and that can’t be done by a machine. I have to put it on myself. It’s not that tedious, but I also have another gown that needs tending. While the ball gown is already finished, the client wanted to loosen the petticoat inside for about 2 inches. In 2 months’ time, she got wider. These things happen, and the only way to solve it is just to do it!” – This was me a month ago when stress enveloped my being.
Marni Goldberg, LMFT, LPCC said that when you start to feel signs of anxiety, particularly physical ones, you should ask yourself the following questions: “What am I worried about right now?”… Read the rest...
Michelle Taylor, LPCC says “Is this even possible to do? To control your emotions?”
Stress is a normal part of life. However, some people are equipped with the right coping mechanisms that are needed to deal with stress and others have difficulty handling their stress to the point where it affects their mental health. If you are the latter and you find yourself googling things such as “therapist near me”, you can read an article by Betterhelp, or also use this article to find out when you should be seeking help for your stress.
You Should Seek Help When…
1. You find it difficult to handle Your emotions
If you’ve been feeling overwhelmingly sad, angry, empty, or any other type of negative emotion as a result of your high levels of stress, you need to seek help. These emotions could simply be just emotions or they could be signs of a developing mental illness. However, you shouldn’t ignore it either way. Seek out a mental health professional who can help you manage your stress as well as your emotions.
2. You’re eating too much or too little
A major change in appetite is almost always a sign of an emotional problem. What’s worse is that you may end up developing an eating disorder and an unhealthy relationship with food as a result of this appetite change. Prevent this by going to a therapist and, should you end up … Read the rest...